Oh absolutely. Feeling physically safe is important but feeling emotionally safe is often what people are actually starving for.
Knowing you can fall apart n not be met with eye rolling n judged as being dramatic or broken. Or even worse have that moment stored away n used against you later.
From my perspective i hear alot about having to be strong and masculine, not showing weakness etc. I get it. But im still human. Im going to have moments of inconsistency, tenderness or feeling overwhelmed. Why do i feel i must be strong in order to be loved?
Imagine someone embraced your vulnerable moments instead of recoiling from it. Imagine they realised that safety goes both ways. A space where we both can soften. Where holding someone in there broken moments isn't a burden but a true act of love n care for that person. That is what safety in a relationship truly means to me. Gah. Seems like such a fairytale.... in my head. Thanks for posting about this. Really got me.
YESSSSS!!!!!! Our partners should feel like our refuge. Our safe person to collapse into when we need to. That we can lean on each other without shame.
Oh absolutely. Feeling physically safe is important but feeling emotionally safe is often what people are actually starving for.
Knowing you can fall apart n not be met with eye rolling n judged as being dramatic or broken. Or even worse have that moment stored away n used against you later.
From my perspective i hear alot about having to be strong and masculine, not showing weakness etc. I get it. But im still human. Im going to have moments of inconsistency, tenderness or feeling overwhelmed. Why do i feel i must be strong in order to be loved?
Imagine someone embraced your vulnerable moments instead of recoiling from it. Imagine they realised that safety goes both ways. A space where we both can soften. Where holding someone in there broken moments isn't a burden but a true act of love n care for that person. That is what safety in a relationship truly means to me. Gah. Seems like such a fairytale.... in my head. Thanks for posting about this. Really got me.
YESSSSS!!!!!! Our partners should feel like our refuge. Our safe person to collapse into when we need to. That we can lean on each other without shame.